Escape the “Busy-ness” Trap: How to Find Freedom from Never Getting Caught Up

I recently had a conversation with a colleague, Steven Rice, who made an interesting observation about leaders. In his words, “ Most leaders think they are too busy but really they are feeling ineffective. “

This rings very true. I spend a lot of time talking to leaders who feel too busy. Overwhelmed. Inundated with demands on their time and attention.

They are falling behind on the decisions they need to make, the problems that must be addressed, the vision that has to be formed, staff problems that demand attention, proposals that must be written, clients issues to be resolved… It’s too much. It’s overwhelming.

When I find organizations that are stuck, they nearly always are led by someone who feels overwhelmed, largely because they aren’t being as effective as they know they should be. This state of overwhelm is the key issue that holds leaders back. It’s the thing.

Solving it is not about being smarter or working harder. That just digs a deeper hole. Because the problem isn’t all the problems. Those will never go away.

The problem is the way a leader works.

It Doesn’t Have to Be This Way

Most leaders, when they feel overwhelmed or ineffective, try to do one of two things:

• They try to work harder and faster. Or -
• They stop trying — and accept a smaller level of success.

Now, I don’t think there is a moral need to lead ever larger and more complex organizations — or that you shouldn’t find contentment leading something simple and small. But I do know that many leaders have a much larger vision. They know there is greater potential.

And they want to pursue it.

But…they are overwhelmed.

What Can Be Done? The Three Practices that Make the Difference

There are three basic practices that any leader can adopt which will change the “overwhelm” dynamic to one of meaningful, consistent successes. I can’t overstate this, if you feel overwhelmed and ineffective, these practices will transform your life.

These three practices are:

In all of the leaders I’ve coached — if they are struggling, or feeling overwhelmed, or not making progress — the issue is in one or more of these three areas.

Practice One: Rigorous Focus

Leaders tend to fall into one of two different categories — having too many targets or no clear target.

Too many targets: To rephrase a quote from the movie The Incredibles, “If everything is a priority — nothing is a priority.” When leaders allow their attention to fall victim to too many demands, they lose focus. Without focus, there is often a lot of effort and work. But little progress.

No clear target: Some leaders just never develop a target or even a list of priorities. They don’t know what they are working towards, they haven’t defined a direction. As you’ve probably heard — if you don’t know where you are going, any path will take you there. But even worse — no focus means you never have a sense of progress. You will always feel ineffective.

The three-ingredient solution?

• Choose one thing to focus on. This doesn’t mean you will only do one thing. But it means you will only focus on one thing at a time. Ironically, pursuing one thing will lead to many things being accomplished. When you accomplish one thing — move to the next one thing.
• Say “No” to other things. We want to please. We want to stay on top of things. We want to feel valuable or relevant. Whatever it is — not saying “No” is preventing your success.

You’ve probably heard this before — and it’s true: Whenever you say “Yes” to something, you automatically say “No” to something else. The problem is, we allow our lives to be controlled by these unintended “No’s.” And we aren’t intentional about what we say “Yes” to.

Summary: I don’t meet highly focused leaders who aren’t making progress on their goals.

It might feel counterintuitive — to accomplish more with less effort — focus on doing less. It’s what works.

Practice Two: Intentional Activity

Leaders who feel overwhelmed and ineffective nearly always let their schedules and plans be determined by external events. Effectively, they are not leading. They are letting circumstances and the demands of others lead them. Being busy and handling all of the never-ending crisis, issues, and important things that come up — becomes a cloak that disguises reaction for action.

To become intentional in your activity — you must have the focus I describe above. Additionally:

Put your focus first on your calendar. Work on it first. Make meaningful progress towards your focus, your priority, first. Make everything else happen later. If you can’t structure your day exactly like this — figure out what structure does work for you.

Summary: Unless you are intentional about how you ration out your limited time and energy — you’ll find that other people’s urgency is what drives your focus.

Practice Three: Build Trust

When you don’t trust yourself — you don’t act. When you don’t trust others — you don’t let them act. Trust, in yourself and others, is slowly earned and easily lost. So, you need to actively protect and consistently build it. You fool yourself if you feel like the best approach to trust is, “If it happens, it happens.” Instead, you should actively build it.

Building trust in yourself: Many leaders struggle with self-confidence. This is very common. Never mind the trappings that come with their position or their ability to assert themselves. For many, much of their success is a lifetime’s worth of effort attempting to answer the question, “Am I good enough?” Or trying to prove to someone, “I can do it.”

Here are two ways to learn to trust yourself:

• Keep the promises you make to yourself: If you don’t believe in yourself — no one else will either. Don’t make promises you won’t keep and keep the ones you do make.
• Track your success: Keep a record of your wins. I often advise leaders to make a daily note of one professional and work win they made each day. Something they succeeded at. In a week, you’ll have a record of 14 wins. In a month, you’ll have 60. Pretty soon, you realize you can make things happen.

Built your trust in others: No one ever builds a successful organization alone. You have to trust. It’s understandable when you don’t trust someone who is dishonest, unreliable, or incompetent. But that’s not what I’m talking about. I’m talking about when we don’t trust people who’ve done nothing (or not enough) to earn our distrust. Try this:

Conclusion

Practice these three things and you’ll find yourself more focused, making better use of the skills and resources around you, and getting more done — while working less.

Take good care,

Christian

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Originally published at https://www.christianmuntean.com on November 17, 2020.